3 Reasons Why Not To Keep Secrets in a Relationship

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All little girls grow up whispering secrets to their trusted girlfriends. Sharing secrets with friends is an integral part growing up and developing trust

Nothing changes as an adult except that, as everything does, it becomes a little more complex than simply whispering exciting little secrets to a friend.

Secrets in the adult world often imply a certain level of ‘shadiness', leaving an impression of ‘having something to hide' or ‘sweeping things under the rug'.

And in a relationship, keeping secrets from your partner is a definite no-no.

Nothing is more counter-productive to growing an open and honest relationship than keeping secrets from each other.

Not to say that couples aren't allowed some level of privacy, however, sharing and communicating honestly is the best and only way to build a healthy relationship.

Thinking ‘What she doesn't know can't hurt her' or ‘What's one little white lie?' is definitely not the way to achieve this.

If all this is not convincing enough to stay away from bending the truth, here are the top 3 reasons why not to keep secrets in your relationship:

  1. Secrets always have a way of getting out – secrets tend not to stay, well, secret for very long. This isn't an age-old saying for nothing – it's a tried and tested fact of life.
  2. Secrets breed more (even bigger) secrets – secrets have an uncanny ability to multiply at a very rapid pace and before you know it, you and your partner may find your relationship drowning in a sea of secrets.
  3. Tit for tat – once your secret has been found out (see point 1) your partner may very well start to keep secrets of his/her own which brings you right back to point 2.

Break the vicious cycle of untruths in your relationship and work towards being completely open and honest with your partner.

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Rachel Moheban currently has a private practice in New York City and specializes in individual and couples therapy, and is the founder of The Relationship Suite. She has her Masters Degree in Social Work from New York University and was trained at the Ackerman Institute for the Family and at the Training Institute for Mental Health in marital and group counseling.

In addition to regular therapeutic practices, Moheban believes that couples benefit even more from using a variety of resources including the effective combination of psycho-education, relationship coaching and counseling, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches combined are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. Using this formula, Moheban designed and created "The Ultimate Relationship Resolution Program."

 

© 2010 The Relationship Suite. Rachel Moheban, LCSW After many years of providing private couples counseling, she discovered in addition to the already great results this method was providing, that couples benefited even more from using a variety of resources especially the effective combination of psycho-education, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches COMBINED are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. This is why she designed and developed a couples program using the full ins and outs of this intricate formula; "The Ultimate Relationship Resolution Program."  This article is for your general information only. You are welcome to share this tip with your community but please make sure to include the following author info:

© 2010 The Relationship Suite. Rachel Moheban, LCSW After many years of providing private couples counseling, I discovered in addition to the already great results this method was providing, that couples benefited even more from using a variety of resources especially the effective combination of psycho-education, pro-active skills and adaptable techniques. These approaches COMBINED are able to create the success formula needed to make fast and immediate changes in relationships. To learn more, and receive our FREE BiWeekly Relationship Tips and access to the Relationship Breakthrough Monthly Teleclass visit http://www.therelationshipsuite.com.

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This article was published on 2010/09/24
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